I don’t think so. What is important is to prove yourself a daughter first rather than just being a daughter in law.
I do understand that it takes time for every female to adjust in a new family. The mentality with which one should become the part of a new family should be positive. We would have had a fight many a times with our own mum, which we will forget very soon, but why it so happens that a fight with MIL becomes a topic of discussion among friends?
Many of us don’t want our kids to spend much time with their grandparents. But have you all ever wondered what would have been the case if we were also deprived from the love and care of our loving Dadimaa? She is also growing old, just like your mum. She also needs the love and care that your mum needs. And trust me, the results are going to be the same - showers of blessings. At least that has been the case with me!
My MIL has always treated me like her own daughter. I always try my level best to treat her like my own mum. She will share things about her family, her past, recipes (by the way, she is an awesome cook and I have learned a lot of recipes from her) and what not! We do fight, but you might laugh at the reason most of the times (as my hubby does). We fight for work as she wants to do all the work by herself!
There is this one incident that I would like to share. My friend came home to see me. That time my MIL was forcefully feeding me fruits to which I was pleading a “No”. She was feeding me with so much love, affection and care that my friend thought I was carrying! It took me around an hour to convince my friend that I wasn’t!
It’s difficult for me to imagine the first two months post delivery of my baby, without her. She had been a great support then.
It’s not that I consider her to be perfect. There have been times when she does something or acts in such a way which I don’t expect. But then, as my hubby says, "They are old, and there is a huge generation gap between us." I'm grateful to God who has blessed me with a loving mum and caring mum-in-law and wish everybody gets the same.
P.S. My MIL is not on social media so this is not just for buttering her ;)