You might think it is a no-brainer, right? Have sex, get orgasm, cuddle, sleep! However, it isn’t always easy to reach that ultimate level of pleasure, as great as any ‘between-the-sheet’s’ activity may be. In fact, making a woman orgasm requires a bit more education, on-the-job, are we right, ladies?
Rope your partner into this one because once you finish reading this, you’re in for a ride! (We will try and cut down on the sex-puns and get straight down to business! After this one) First let us all appreciate why orgasms are so awesome!
While 95% of men do orgasm during intimate moments, only between 50 and 70 percent of women do. Even despite the ability to have multiple orgasms, women still aren’t reaching there! Part of the issue for women stems from different types of orgasms. Some prefer penetrative orgasms while other reach an orgasm only through clitoral stimulation. Some, need both to get there.
Physiological or psychological blocks are also barriers to having an orgasm. As per media and real life, a lot of women fake orgasms too, albeit with good intention. This can cause complications where the man may feel like he has made his partner orgasm. This inhibits potential learning and improvement, leading to sex where only one partner reaches climax, which we know is as unfair as it can get! Thankfully, there is a way out of each one of these issues.
True, that heading sounds like one of those spam emails you will delete but let’s try not to trash this just yet. Your partner may have all the skills in the book to try and please you but some days are less earth-shattering in the orgasm department. However, with some research and some experience, some well-meaning folk have found tips that will up your sex-game and guarantee success!
It was found that a higher number of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation than vaginal sex. However, it isn’t so simple. Each woman has a rhythm of stimulation she prefers or a combination of different strokes. It turns out that most women prefer a gentle touch instead of firmer or more vigorous motions on their clitoris. Men, unlearn some bits of porn-led education! Ask your woman, as you go along what she prefers in that moment and she will ALWAYS have the right answer!
Now for the real gold. Men, women that receive more oral sex are more likely to orgasm more. They might not get there during oral sex but it certainly does up the chances of more intense orgasms.
Both men and women are more likely to orgasm if love-making lasts over 15 minutes. For women, 30 minutes or more is even better! Now we aren’t ditching the thrill of a quickie and thank the heavens for them in our busy schedules but if the goal is to give or receive an intense orgasm then you might want to invest more time. Especially in foreplay.
Guys, keep your lady happier. Women in happy relationships have more orgasms than one’s that are unhappy or stressed out. Women find it easier to let loose during sex if they are comfortable and happy with their partners. While sex does strengthen a bond in a strained relationship, women might find it harder to reach an orgasm with their brains over thinking. Men, talk it out with your ladies and ease her into the mood with a sensual massage or some kissing.
Men don’t struggle as much as women to orgasm but some do. Especially one’s that are stressed out or tired. If your man is taking exceptionally long to orgasm, be patient. Touch him more and don’t pressurize him to perform. Relationships are all about having a safe, comfortable space after all. Here are some additional tips to help.
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